Buffet Before and After

I’m guesting over at DecorChick today, where we’re talking about cutting grocery budgets.  

A few years ago I ordered this buffet from Home Decorators Collection from their clearance center.  The description read “antique white with a honey oak top.”  When it arrived it was puce green with an orange top.  Whenever I looked at it, or someone said something about it, I would repeat, “But it was cheap.” As if that fixed everything.

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I used it for a few years after crafting a super simple cover for it.

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I loved the look of the cover, but it made the doors harder to use. Fast forward to our total kitchen remodel.  The buffet has been sitting in my bedroom for 9 months.  It is used as a collector of papers and homeless items. Our board games are in the attic where they never get played with, except when the baby sneaks up there and dumps them all out in a pile and scrambles them up–game soup.   The children gravitate towards Netflix instead of other more stimulating activities and I’m looking for alternatives.  I decided to sacrifice our stuff collector to create a game center in our new dining room.

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Saturday, was a sunny 70 degrees.  Heidi helped me carry the buffet out to the deck.  Darren worked on setting our last few cabinets and cutting the sink hole in our new countertops.  (Ooh, I’m excited to show you those later this week.) I really couldn’t do much to help Darren so instead I started a brand new project that had us working side by side.  It makes him crazy when I start new projects before the old ones are finished, but he was very patient with me.

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I started by using gel stripper to remove the orange top.  I wanted to stain it a dark walnut to match our floors and cabinets (which turned out to be not as red, but it blends ok.) Using what I had on hand (no new money spent), was the most important thing to this project. Turns out the top was oak and stripped beautifully, but the molding was mdf, was a booger to strip, and took stain in a strange way.  I decided to love it, since I was too tired  to fix it.

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Ooh, She’s already looking better.

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I found some Annie Sloan’s Chalk Paint in Paris Gray.  I worried that it was a little too thick from previous use and too blue for my space….. It won out with it’s no sanding or prep work appeal, especially after stripping the top. I added enough water to the paint to fill the can back up and stir, stir, stirred it in.  I think stirring in the water was the longest part of this project. It really didn’t want to mix and I was sure I had ruined it.  Eventually, I ended up with a nice smooth paint.
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Even with thinning the paint back down, it covered that puce in one coat. I painted right over the hinges, but took off the knobs to save the antique bronze patina. The inside of the cabinet is still puce, partly because I’m thinking about using a contrasting color on the inside.  Mostly, because a freak snow storm was blowing in. It went from 70 degrees to 30 degrees in just a few hours! We had to move the party inside.
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We quickly felted the bottom to protect our floors and carried it into place.  I put dark wax on the top and clear wax on the bottom to protect the chalk paint, since it’s not durable at all without a top coat of something.  While the wax was still sticky, the kids started moving their games in.

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Now I can keep an eye on those games.  No more game soup, Grant!
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 Here’s to more family times around the table with some board game fun.

Yesterday I reposted this on Facebook, and was a little shocked to read one comment extolling the virtues of spending a Saturday watching the same movie 5 times, and another woman saying she’d rather her kids watch TV than spend a day outdoors with their dad….Seriously?  I enjoy a good movie as much as the rest, but we were created to build relationships.

Is there anyone out there who values family time over TV?  What are some ways you find a balance and encourage face to face time?

 

 

How to blow your budget and end up eating stuff like “Ox Tail” but not starve

For new readers, I’m challenging myself to only spend $400 a month on food–to feed 8.  That’s $1.66 per person per day or about 50% of what we would be given from the government if we qualified for food stamps.  We are doing this because a huge foundation repair on our home devoured our savings in the middle of a complete kitchen gut, unexpected medical bills, and vehicle repairs.  We are squishing our budget as small as we can to dig out of our hole.  We are debt free, except for our home, and fighting to stay that way. If you want to read about the other months in this series you can do that here, here, here, here, and here.

I’ll confess I didn’t write down all my receipts last month. I remember that I made a trip to Dirty Don’s the day I got my food money and stocked up on things like applesauce cups ($.25 for 8) and #10 cans of food (restaurant size.) I can get a #10 can of fruit like mandarin oranges or tropical fruit blend for $2.75. This is significantly cheaper than buying the smaller cans, even at Aldi.  One huge can of fruit will last 2-3 meals.

One of the #10 cans I purchased was a pizza sauce can.  We usually do jarred marinara for homemade pizza, but this cost less and was more authentic.  I divided the sauce into single pizza size baggies and put them in the freezer.

I also made a run to Costco with my coupons in hand and used them to buy some things that are rare treats: chicken nuggets; goldfish crackers; and a big bag of veggie straws. When I got home I divided everything up into snack size baggies for the kids to grab and pack for school lunches.  Their snack baskets hadn’t looked so inviting for awhile.

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To make sure these special purchases lasted all month, I kept back half of them and replenished their baskets at the beginning of week 2. Also, everyone gets their own basket, and no fair stealing from someone else’s basket.  If you eat all your food the first day, you alone will suffer.

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But by week 2, I was down to $6 in my food budget.  Wow! I was in shock.  How does this happen?  It was the special purchases that did it.  I broke my own rule:  “Necessary food first, rare treats last.” This is not the first time I’ve done this.

I also noticed that I was depleting my pantry more than I thought.  Even though we weren’t spending more than $400 a month, we were eating more, by using up the pantry food I already had on hand.  The deal is, the kids are hungry.  They are growing.  I have a teenager, 2 tweens, and 3 other hungry kids. They are inhaling everything.

I racked my brain, how did I used to do it?  This budget isn’t new to us.  The kids are bigger and food prices are higher, but when Darren was out of work in 2009, our budget for 7 was $200.  It felt as tight as this does now, but we never went hungry.  So how did I do it?  I baked whole grain bread to fill those little bodies up.  I made tortillas, muffins, rolls, loaf bread, cinnamon rolls, cornbread, oat bread, pancakes…all of it.  And for pennies a serving.

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So I dusted off my flour grinder, grabbed a $25 pound sack of wheat berries from the freezer and started working a little harder to make sure we survive.  And while I was in the freezer, I looked around to see what foods I had been avoiding and decided now was the time to use them up.

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I had about a pound of ground turkey–not enough for 8 of us.  So I soaked some old-fashioned oats in milk, until they fluffed up to match the texture of the meat, then kneaded it in with garlic, onion, salt and pepper and a dash of Worcestershire.  Then I made mini meat patties and cooked them on the griddle.

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Then I found an old beef roast wrapped in white butcher paper.  I had been avoiding it because the last few roasts we had were tough and gristly and tasted like wild game.  We were desperate though.  I thawed it in the microwave and cut it into bite sized cubes, then sautéed it in a heavy bottomed stock pot with garlic and onion.

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I added half a bag of slightly dried baby carrots (because someone didn’t’ seal the bag in the fridge), a jar of home canned green beans, a can of Italian stewed tomatoes from the fridge, a couple of green potatoes that I peeled to get the green off.  Then I salted everything well and hoped for the best.

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Oh my!  It was so good.

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Then I had the kids go look in the Christmas fruit box from the basement.  I had forgotten it was down there (yes, I realize that was 3 months ago.) They came back with arms full of oranges and grapefruit with dry tough skin. Nobody could have eaten them without a very sharp knife.  I sharpened my paring knife and started slicing and ended up with the most beautiful citrus salad (that lasted 3 days!)

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Just to make sure there was enough stew to go around, I also baked a hearty oat loaf in a 9×13 pan.

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The last meat packages in the freezer were Ox Tail…. what is that even?  Oh look, it’s really the tail. And Sirloin Steaks.  The steaks sounded promising.  I planned to make a stir fry and slice them thin with whatever veggies I can find.  And maybe some packs of ramen noodles or rice with a stir in of homemade peanut sauce.

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But I opened those packages and they were all fat and bones.  Maybe 6 oz of usable meat on the “sirloins.”  I put my face in my hands, and the kids ate peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, twice.  And DH and I warmed up leftover vegetable fried rice and said how good it tasted the second day.  The meat sat on the counter for a few minutes while I gathered my wits.  They looked terrible. I found some garlic salt, some sprouted onions out of the garage pantry, some Bragg’s liquid aminos (that stuff can take the game flavor out of almost anything.) And cooked it overnight on low.

I didn’t take pictures before the kids devoured it, but it was delicious.  The meat fell right off the bones and it was easy to separate from the rest of the stuff.  And the flavor!  Oh the magic of Bragg’s Aminos.

So somehow we made it to the end.  The kids couldn’t wait to taste milk again.  Pancakes were dinner food, as was French toast, and brown rice with leftover veggies and eggs stirred in.  This is the stuff that builds character and memories.  The process somehow doesn’t feel as bad as it could, because we know we could always stop our plan and spend the money we are using to finish our kitchen on food. Nobody wants to do that.

The kids are learning to be grateful, the magic of budgeting (you can only spend money once), and I’m getting my business building tail in gear, because this situation needs to be TEMPORARY.

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Speaking of which, I just added new services to my menu subscription site:  A dinner only plan and a self-service click and drag menu planner (video tutorials here.) You get it all, including our Everything Meal Plan with breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks 7 days a week. For $5 a month, it’s a crazy good deal.

 

 

The Character of Money

Trying to stay on a budget without a foundation of good character is like trying to stick to a weight loss plan without addressing the inner reasons why I’m fat to begin with.  I’ll end up sitting on the sofa in 3 days with an open bag of Doritos.

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When I’ve been out of control with money, it’s because something was off in my character.

This list of character qualities was one of those things that came to me while I was sitting in church thinking about my kids.

Financial Character

These are the things I want them to catch along the way while they are under my roof, so it will just be part of them wen they are grown and supporting themselves.

1.  Stewardship:  When I think of my money and things I own as God’s instead of my own, it changes everything.

2.  Patience:  When I’ve committed to never borrowing money, the right time is when I have the money to pay for it.

3. Generosity: We reap what we sow.  If we sow generosity, we will reap abundance.  Since my money is God’s I’m careful that who or what  I give to is something He would want me to give to.

4. Honesty: Means telling the truth even if I’m telling someone the item I’m selling isn’t perfect, or if I wouldn’t personally buy it.

5.  Servant Heart: Serving for the sake of serving, not for what I will get out of it.  Choosing a job where my income is tied to how many people I can help.

6. Depth: Not judging a person by their income or quality of clothing, but knowing their true value comes from being created in the image of God. Similarly not thinking an item is higher quality just because it’s higher priced, or that a gift was not given with as much love, just because it cost less.

7. Gratefulness: When I appreciate what I already have, I’m not looking for the next thing to buy to bring me happiness.

8.  Contentment: This is the opposite of entitlement.  It’s knowing that I deserve nothing, and whatever I receive is more than I deserved.

What do you think?  What would you add to the list?

25 Ways to Raise Happy Kids

A few weeks ago, I was sitting in church with a full heart.  We had been trading illness around our house for a few months and hadn’t been able to attend as a family for that long.  It felt so good to be there!  I had a lot of things on my mind…a special concert, a conference that I was preparing to speak at, and all the things in my business that were laying in a to do pile.  At the heart of it though, was my children.  I’m good at spreading myself thin, so thin that I wondered if they were getting enough of me.

I closed my eyes in prayer and then words started coming.  I grabbed a stub of a pencil and started writing in the margins of all the bulletins I could find.  The kids were passing me scraps of paper so I could keep writing.  I wrote down the notes I needed for the conference and then something new….the things I wanted for my children.

This wasn’t a prophecy, but more a spirit led clarity of thought.  I started listing things and then realized it was “How to Make a Difference in the Life of a Child.”  These are the things my parents and other loved adults did for me.  These are the things that make up the positive parts of who I am today.

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Homemade Silly Sludge aka GAK

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Happy President’s Day!  We love our founding presidents for sure. We celebrate their day by working on the house and trying to keep the kids from watching movies or playing video games ALL day.   Day time clothes are optional.  Bathrobes and fuzzy pajamas are acceptable for the dress code.  (We talk about patriotism nearly every day, so I imagine it will come up today as well.)

Last night I knew I needed a plan if I wanted this to be a happy day.  Hubs and I each wrote out a “would be nice to accomplish” list.  Knowing that we would probably only get one thing done.  Then I did a quick search for an idea to keep the kids occupied so I could work.  Schedule for the kids: clean rooms; waffles with mom; special activity; play in the snow; board games; electronics after 3pm.

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1/4 cup Elmer’s white glue, 1/4 cup cold water and 2 drops of food coloring.

I found a pin from Sugar Bee Crafts written by guest blogger Love and Laundry on making Silly Sludge or Gak. All the ingredients were on my basement shelf, minimal mess, short time involvement for me.  Long time involvement for kids.  Perfection.

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After they mixed the glue,water and coloring together.  We dissolved 1/2 tsp borax into 1/4 cup hot water.  And poured that into the glue.  It immediately started a chemical reaction creating a smooth polymer.

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Aaak! Mom, I cannot touch this!

Not all of the water absorbed into the Gak right away.  I used a spoon to lift the polymer out of the remaining water and onto a piece of foil. (Wax paper would have worked too, but we were out.) The kids kneaded it and kneaded it until it was smooth ball. Some of the kids opted to work the remaining water into their sludge.  That worked out well.

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Their first reactions were mixed.  Heather didn’t want to touch it at all, but soon was enjoying herself with the rest.

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Dub’s reaction.

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Brandon’s reaction

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Grant’s reaction.

It’s kind of a rule around here, that we don’t laugh when someone else is crying.  (It’s only fun when everyone is having fun.)  I broke the rule.

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Grant didn’t take it well. The picture is fuzzy, because I’m laughing so hard.

Caleb is our sensitive one.  He went after Grant and brought him back to play on his shoulders.

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We’re sorry; want to try again?

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Eventually they all had fun. 2 hours of it.

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The next two pictures show you a sneak peak of how our kitchen project is going :).  There’s my lovely craigslist range in the background and a few of our cabinets in place.  There’s still a lot left to do, but my heart is pretty happy right now.  Darren is working hard today and I may have a kitchen sink in a month or two.
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Gak rainbow

 

One of the things I loved about this activity was experimenting with colors.  We used the cheap liquid food colors that come in red, yellow, green and blue.  In order from left to right these are the color combos:

1 drop yellow, 1 drop red (pale orange)

2 drops blue

1 drop blue, 1 drop green (bluegreen)

2 drops green

2 drops red, 1 drop blue (pinky lavender)

1 drop red, 2 drops blue (purple)

For the detailed recipe visit Sugar Bee Crafts.

Swagbucks is turning 6!

You’ve heard me talk about Swagbucks.com and how they can help you save money and earn gift cards. These gift cards paid for so many things over the years, so I’m happy to share a GREAT new way to earn get even more Swag Bucks — or even win a $600 gift card.

This year, Swagbucks turns 6, so they are giving away $600 PayPal gift cards to 10 lucky Swagbucks members — and one of them can be YOU. Here’s how: Sign up here for Swagbucks AND RSVP for their 6th Birthday Party. You’ll be assigned a team for the one-day Challenge on their 6th Birthday, Feb 25th. Now, for every 30 SB earned from the moment you RSVP through the end of Feb 23rd, you will get 1 entry into their birthday giveaway. Here’s the awesome part: ALL Swag Bucks, including ones from Swag Codes, count towards your giveaway entries.

Winners will be announced on the Swagbucks birthday, Feb 25th. Even if you don’t win the giveaway, they will hold a massive Birthday Team Challenge where all participants will get bonus SB, anywhere from 10 SB all the way to 500 SB for top earners. Make sure to click here to RSVP and learn more about the Birthday festivities and get ready to rake in the Swag Bucks and free gift cards!

Valentine Snack Mix

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We made Valentine Snack Mix this week, just because. The kids each have a basket to hold their personal snacks for adding to lunches and for grabbing on the way out the door.  I thought these would be a festive and unusual addition to their baskets.  Read more

100 Years Old Today

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This week’s blog theme is “loving our children” (last week’s was “loving our husbands.”)  I’m not an expert on children by any stretch, but I’ve noticed, children spell love T.I.M.E.

It was the hundredth day of kindergarten today and by miracles my work schedule allowed me to go.  This is a huge treat for me, and even bigger for Brandon, my kindergartener.  There are some amazing mom’s in his class that volunteer every week.  My busy schedule means I just can’t be in his room as often.  He lets me know he notices.  He’s honest like that.

But today…today I was there.  At least my 100 year old self was:

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And as silly as I felt, it was worth it, to see how happy it made him, knowing that today we are the same age.  (Which is probably just how God sees us.)  It’s hard to tell in this photo, but we both have white hair (from an over application of dry shampoo) and white eyebrows from a white eyeliner pencil. We used the same white eyeliner to make his mustache and a gray eye pencil for the wrinkles. We found the glasses at Dollar Tree.  The rest we just dug out of our closets.  Some of the kid’s outfits were so amazing!  Crocheted shawls, wigs, and tiny little canes.  (I wish I had permission to show you!)  It’s so funny how many details these little guys notice about adults.

1623760_10203293968212934_1190287811_nWe spent the morning in the cafeteria with the first grade.  There were 13 stations for them to explore what 100 means.  My station was threading 100 fruit loops on a necklace.  It was surprisingly hard for these little ones.  Only 2 students could finish in the 15 minute window.  It totally cracked me up how often they asked me how many they had on their string.  They’d slip on 5 and then say, am I done?  We did a lot of counting.  I told them 50 plus 50 is 100.  They thought I said 15 plus 15 is 100.  When I explained the difference, I thought they would faint.  Little eyeballs rolled back deep into their sockets.

Some of the other stations:

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Doing a strenuous exercise for 100 seconds (whew!  that felt like a long time.) After which they got a snack of 1 wafer cookie and 2 oreos (which looks like 100.)

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Using an ink pad to put 100 fingerprint spots on a dalmation

Making a paper chain with 100 links

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Stacking 100 cups

Putting 10 stickers on each of 10 strips of paper and then sticking them to a crown band to make a hat.

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Putting 10 groups of 10 objects on a placemat and then reading stories about 100 things.

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Cutting out a 1 and 2 zeros from paper and then making it into a picture.

It was a great time with the kids staying active and well-behaved all morning.  I was exhausted by the end and ready to go home for a nap.  Those 100 year olds sure had a lot of energy.

Just for giggles, here’s a video of Brandon doing the old man shuffle when he was asked to hand out papers in the morning. Bwa ha ha.

 

 

25 Ways to Date your Mate

My friends Stacy and Jenna have been joining me all week for a frugal date blog hop.  And now it’s my turn.

The idea was for DH and I to take a super fun and creative date, photograph it and then post it here for inspiration.  Bwa ha ha.   We were able to sneak in one “leave the house date” in January.  It was basketball tournament night, so we took all our kids to the basketball game, stayed long enough to cheer our son on to the end, and drop the little ones off at the babysitting exchange.  From there we made our way to the church, where the college youth had a nice chili supper waiting.  We enjoyed a meal with them and then gave a little class on financial stuff.  (I don’t know about them, but I had a blast.) They changed direction after we left to a game night.   We thought about staying for that….but we’re so old, we didn’t want to cramp their style.  So, we drove around town wondering what on earth we should do for the next half hour before we had to officially pick up our kids.

Ice cream?  Nope, I’m stuffed.

Window Shopping?  It’s on the other side of town…

Home for some fun?  Not enough time….

So we went to pick up our kids early and visited with the Mama for a while.  We’re boring like that.  But happy :).

That was a pretty exciting date night for us.  Our date nights typically include a run to Chipotle, and then a trip to the hardware store, and home for a Netflix movie.   Yawn.  It’s pretty satisfying being dull.

If we had a super cool list of surprisingly cheap date nights then we’d have more of a chance a chance at being creative… Oh lookie here!

Winter Dates

1.  Swimming at an indoor pool

2.  Blindfold date: Blindfold the non-driver then take them somewhere and have them guess the location.  Suggested destinations:  library; ice cream parlor; favorite shop at the mall; bowling; mini-golf; park…Remove the blindfold and have some fun at the first location,  Then swap.

3.  Have a progressive fast food dinner.  Picking up a different item at each restaurant.

4.  Play racquetball at the local YMCA.

5.  Take a class together at continuing education services at the local High School.  They typically offer ballroom dancing classes, art classes, cooking, and computer stuff too.

6.  Go to an art museum (our big one is free.)

7.  Give each person $10 and split up at the grocery store.  Assign each person a vague list of items such as “meat” “dessert” “Side Dish” “bread” and let each person pick whatever they want.  Go home and cook it up together.

8.  Build a snow family to greet the kids when they come home.

9.  Bake cookies together, then deliver them to widows and widowers from church.

10. Write down 10 of your favorite things about each other, then read them aloud:  My favorite outfit you wear; Your cologne I like best; My favorite way you do your hair; My favorite thing to do together; My favorite memory; The thing I first noticed about you; The thing I miss most when you’re away; My favorite place we’ve been together; My favorite way you touch me; My favorite talent you have.

11.  Write down 10 of your favorites and see if you can guess them about each other.  Each item you guess right, gets rewarded with a kiss :).  Favorite:  Color; Food; Ice-cream flavor; Soda Flavor; Decor style; vacation spot; movie; song; book; car…

12.  His/Her Spa night; bubble bath, candles, massage

13.  Learn to Dance at home (via youtube)

14. Double date and have a game night

15. Formal night:  Surprise him in your nicest gown then go someplace just for fun (Taco Bell, Frozen Yogurt,  or the Mall Food Court)

16. Lift weights together, following up with protein smoothies and a muscle rub down

17. Plan your dream house or vacation

18. Talk about your 1, 5, and 10 year goals and make some plans to reach them.

19. Ice Skating

20. Watch your Wedding Video (via Imperfect Homeaker)

21.  Browse an ethnic grocery store and try something new

22.  Build something together from Ana-White.com

23. Write a bunch of post-it love notes to your kids and hide them in their stuff (inside their socks, school bag, bathrobe, book etc.) (While your at it, sneak some into your spouse’s stuff too–but don’t let him see you!)

24. Pass it on:  Do a bunch of random acts of kindness around town.  Leave a quarter in the cart at Aldi; shovel someone’s driveway; drop off baked goods on a neighbor’s porch, ring the bell and run; pay for someone’s order behind you in the drive thru;  etc

25.  Hot and Cold:  Give each person $5 and tax and buy gifts from Dollar Tree.  Go home and hide them around the house and play hot and cold until each spouse finds them.