…will determine the way the rest of the world sees him. I know him better than anyone else. If I say unflattering things about my husband, his reputation will suffer. My girl-friends will lose their respect for him. My mother will hold a grudge as a protective reflex for me. I will eventually forgive him, but the rest of the world won’t.
If I speak only kindness about my husband, and give him the benefit of doubt, I will grow in admiration and respect for him. The world will see the person, who knows him best, holds him in highest regard. I will free him to be his best self. I will encourage the parts of him that are the most noble. I will see him in his best light.
How I speak, influences how I feel. How I feel influences how I act. How I speak and act, influences everyone around me.
We are opposites in many ways. I get frustrated, so does he. The things that frustrate me, belong in the conversations I have with my Lord, the only One who loves him more than I do. The only One with the perfect ability to forgive. The only one with the power of the Holy Spirit to mold him into the man he needs to be. The man he really wants to be. If I nag him, I will bring rise to his pride, his natural reflex to defend himself. This will interfere with what God is trying to do in his life. If I do my nagging on my knees, I give God the opportunity to change both of us in the process.
My protector,
My Lover,
The father of my children, My provider,
My friend.
He deserves my highest regard, and distinction above all other persons. I purpose to guard my tongue.
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I’ve dedicated this month to encouraging us to love our husbands and our children. Two other bloggers are joining me by giving an inspiration for a frugal date night. Yesterday, Stacy posted her scavenger hunt date.
Today, I want to introduce you to Jenna from Rain On a Tin Roof. Jenna is gifted with decorating on a budget while making it look fab. If you like classy family-friendly style, furniture rescues, and a smattering of humor tossed in, you’re going to love her blog. She is posting today about how to make a romantic haven for an at home date night.