Spending Freeze Day 8: Getting Creative

Having money to spend gives choices.  Sometimes having too many choices can make it harder to make a decision.  During our spending freeze, we have the ease of few choices :).  Example to follow:

We had to take down our Christmas decorations this month.  Sniff, sniff.  I didn’t get some of them up until December 23rd…..we were kind of slow.  So taking them down right away seemed too fast.  I wasn’t emotionally ready for Christmas to be over…..

…until I was.  Then I imagined red hearts everywhere and thought, “Why not take Christmas down and put some Valentine stuff up?”  Never mind that Valentine’s Day is 38 days away, or that we have never decorated for Valentine’s Day before.

Add that we are in a spending freeze and don’t have any decorations from previous years….because we don’t decorate for anything but Christmas.

I smelled a challenge.  Not to win a spot in Better Homes and Gardens….bwa ha ha ha….No.  What you are about to see definitely doesn’t rise to that level.  I just wanted to make the place feel festive for the kids.

I found a foam wreath form that used to have cotton balls hot glued to it.  It looked cute on pinterest, but it looked dumb when I did it.  So I pulled the cotton balls off and ended up a wreath form covered with hardened glue and fuzz.  It was too expensive to throw away and too ugly to sell at a garage sale so I put it in the pile that makes my office look really trashy.

I had a spool of pearl edged burlap ribbon left over from a wedding shower and wrapped the wreath.  My plan was to just wrap it up and hang it up…but I ran out of ribbon :(.  My first though was to run to the store and grab another spool.  At most it was going to be $2…..but spending freeze.

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Not enough ribbon….so the remnants of glue and cotton balls still shows.

Aak.  So I looked around my office to see if I had anything red.  I found some long strips of polar fleece left over from a blanket project.

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Without measuring I folded it over to be able to cut a semblance of a square

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Rounded the edges

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 Cut a spiral

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And rolled it up (starting with the outside edge) to make roses.  At the end, the round part in the middle glued over the bottom to hold it all together.  Then I spent about 20 minutes making a bunch of them.  It went fast, because I didn’t measure anything. The un-uniformity of it all made a nice effect.

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I love how it turned out!

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I hung it in my entry over a piece of fake Ikea fur and a couple of candles.  This pic doesn’t do it justice…

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 We found small bits of Valentine candy and thought to make centerpieces out of some Dollar Tree candle glasses I had on hand.  But the tiny amount of candy looked stupid.  And then the boys ate all the candy.  So we tried something else.

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Black eyed peas with a votive nestled in. A scrap of burlap ribbon and a hand stitched felt heart.  It isn’t what we’ve always dreamed about as far as decorations go but it was 100% from stash and is a little bit festive.

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To add to the festive, we added some of the same hearts to our Ikea plants over the stove.

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These are my favorite.

If I can find some red construction paper, I’d like to make these.

The Glue For the 2 of You

Nope this isn’t a craft post.  It’s about marriage.  Some say the glue for a marriage is love, but I disagree.  Romantic feelings come and go and sometimes you just don’t “feel” it.  But that’s not a reason for a marriage to fail if it’s held together by commitment.

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Marriages are breaking apart all around us and that’s enough to make DH and I hold on tight to each other and pray. We’re no strangers personally to conflict in marriage, some of it serious. It scares us when people we’ve been close to and love dearly suddenly split apart.  No only do we grieve the death of their family, but it feels close. Like if we aren’t watchful and purposeful it could happen to us.

One drive home from school my youngest daughter asked me, “Who do you have your eye on next?  You know, for when you get tired of Daddy?” As if it was inevitable that we would split one day and I would move on as she had seen so many other parents do. It was all I could do to keep the car on the road and I said, “Honey, that is one thing you will never have to worry about.  Your Father and I promised before God and 400 witnesses to stay married until one of us died. That doesn’t mean that we will never disagree or always be happy with one another.  That doesn’t mean that one or both of us won’t mess up badly. But we will never quit trying. Do you understand?”  I drove with my peripheral vision as I looked at her in the eyes.  “I give you my word, that I will never leave your Daddy.”  A that moment, something inside her finally felt secure.

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There are seminars, books and dvds on how to have a happy marriage.  I’m pretty sure my dad has a copy of everything in his home library and uses them weekly as he works as a lay counselor.  There’s lots of good things to read and watch and learn,  but if you only do two things today, try these:

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1.  Honor your husband daily.  Men need honor more than love.  Gasp when you meet him at the door after work like he’s the best thing you’ve ever seen in your life. Think of things you value about him and tell him.  If you know there is something you could do to please him, do it. Does he prefer long hair?  Why cut it short?  Does he have a preference for food?  For s*x?  Work it in. If you honor him, he will start to treat you even better.  But don’t honor to get something in return.  That ruins the effect.  Just freely, sincerely, honor him.

Date Night

2.  Plan for a weekly or bimonthly date night.   This could be as simple as a Netflix movie at home and some “cuddle” time. Or as elaborate as a theme date from the Dating Divas.  If you have young children, you can put them to bed early and start a home date after they are asleep. Even better, find another family that you can trade babysitting with.  We’ve been doing this for 5 years and works great as long as there are ground rules and each family respects them.  (I’ll share my ground rules tomorrow :).)

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Stacy from Stacymakescents.com

In honor of Valentine Season, I’ve partnered with 2 other bloggers to bring you some inspiration for some fun but frugal Date nights.  Tuesday, I’ll introduce you to Stacy from Stacy Makes Cents.

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Jenna from Rainonatinroof.com

And Wednesday you’ll meet Jenna from Rain on a Tin Roof.

Thursday and Friday, I’ll share my ideas for creative dating on the cheap.

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