25 Ways to Raise Happy Kids

A few weeks ago, I was sitting in church with a full heart.  We had been trading illness around our house for a few months and hadn’t been able to attend as a family for that long.  It felt so good to be there!  I had a lot of things on my mind…a special concert, a conference that I was preparing to speak at, and all the things in my business that were laying in a to do pile.  At the heart of it though, was my children.  I’m good at spreading myself thin, so thin that I wondered if they were getting enough of me.

I closed my eyes in prayer and then words started coming.  I grabbed a stub of a pencil and started writing in the margins of all the bulletins I could find.  The kids were passing me scraps of paper so I could keep writing.  I wrote down the notes I needed for the conference and then something new….the things I wanted for my children.

This wasn’t a prophecy, but more a spirit led clarity of thought.  I started listing things and then realized it was “How to Make a Difference in the Life of a Child.”  These are the things my parents and other loved adults did for me.  These are the things that make up the positive parts of who I am today.

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The Way I Speak About Him…

…will determine the way the rest of the world sees him.  I know him better than anyone else.  If I say unflattering things about my husband, his reputation will suffer.  My girl-friends will lose their respect for him.  My mother will hold a grudge as a protective reflex for me. I will eventually forgive him, but the rest of the world won’t.

If I speak only kindness about my husband, and give him the benefit of doubt, I will grow in admiration and respect for him. The world will see the person, who knows him best, holds him in highest regard.  I will free him to be his best self.  I will encourage the parts of him that are the most noble.  I will see him in his best light.

How I speak, influences how I feel.  How I feel influences how I act. How I speak and act, influences everyone around me.



We are opposites in many ways.  I get frustrated, so does he. The things that frustrate me, belong in the conversations I have with my Lord, the only One who loves him more than I do.  The only One with the perfect ability to forgive. The only one with the power of the Holy Spirit to mold him into the man he needs to be.  The man he really wants to be.  If I nag him, I will bring rise to his pride, his natural reflex to defend himself. This will interfere with what God is trying to do in his life.  If I do my nagging on my knees, I give God the opportunity to change both of us in the process.


He is my companion,

 My protector,

 

My Lover,

The father of my children, My provider,

My friend.

He deserves my highest regard, and distinction above all other persons. I purpose to guard my tongue.

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 I’ve dedicated this month to encouraging us to love our husbands and our children. Two other bloggers are joining me by giving an inspiration for a frugal date night.  Yesterday, Stacy posted her scavenger hunt date.

Today, I want to introduce you to Jenna from Rain On a Tin Roof.  Jenna is gifted with decorating on a budget while making it look fab. If you like classy family-friendly style, furniture rescues, and a smattering of humor tossed in, you’re going to love her blog.  She is posting today about how to make a romantic haven for an at home date night.

 

 

 

Take Note

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It’s time to do yourself a little favor.  Take a quiet moment while the memories are still fresh and write some Christmas notes for yourself for next year. This isn’t the time to make huge plans (Which is so tempting when the execution of those plans is still 12 months away.)

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Just write some notes about things that went over really well this year or maybe didn’t go so well.  Here’s a list of 13 things to think about:

  • What was the most stolen white elephant gift?
  • Were there any things you were going to try but didn’t have time for?
  • Did you run out of tape?  How many rolls should you have on hand?
  • Did you have enough wrapping paper?  How much is enough?
  • Were the kids overwhelmed with too many gifts?  How many would have been right?
  • How did you feel about what you purchased for the stockings?
  • Did a relative make a really yummy dish that you should remember to ask her to bring agin?
  • Did you run across a neat story to read, or a song to learn?
  • Did you try something new this year that needs to become a tradition?
  • What date did you wish you were all done shopping and wrapping?
  • When you should start any hand made items to avoid last minute stress?
  • Were you tempted to buy a bunch of extra gifts since you had so many great ideas?  File those ideas for next year.
  • Did you notice some great sales?!  For example, I found legos on Amazon on cyber Monday for 50-60% off retail. And Target had jammies 40% off the week before Christmas.  Chances are the same types of sales will happen again next year and I want to remember to look for it.

Whatever you write just be sure to put enough details down that it will still be helpful to you 12 months from now.

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The newest Christmas fad is to keep it simple.  Simple. Simple. Simple.  (Said while poking my forehead with my finger.)

A basic tree, some yummy food.  Done.  No need to go crazy and dec the whole house, unless someone is paying you a huge sum of money to do it.  Drink some nog, do a puzzle.  Breathe.  Smile. Relax.

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This year the flu wiped me out the week before Christmas.  I had planned to finish my sewing and shopping that week since school would be out and my choir program would be finished.  But instead I enjoyed some forced R&R and fretted about it. You see, we only bought our kids a pair of jammies and 2 other gifts.  Only some kids had no jammies.  And some kids had only 1 gift.  But the funny things is, on Christmas morning no one noticed (My Mom did help me make sure everyone had new jammies–I think they may have noticed that.) But the kids that opened one gift instead of two–didn’t say a word. They were too busy playing with their one fun gift.  I worried for nothing.  And the jammies were a HUGE hit.

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Here’s a little screenshot of how I like to keep notes. If you click on it, I think you can see it bigger and maybe read some of the text.

How you take your notes is up to you, as long as it’s a place that you are sure to look next year.  I’ve been making a Christmas plan on my computer since 2003.  It started in excel and has morphed into a powerpoint file (since that’s the way I think best.)  Now that I’ve worked out a system I like, I just “save as” the old file with the new year on it, then quickly go and delete out the old info and plop in the new.  This year as I was getting ready for Christmas late August or so, I found my notes from last year to help me with this year.  I completely forgot I had done it.  When I saw it, I jumped up and screamed “I’m a genius!” What a blessing to have a springboard to make the holiday easier.  It’s like writing a love letter to future you :).

How about you?  Do you write notes to yourself for next year?  What questions would you add to the list?

The Perfect Christmas

I easily get caught up in wanting Christmas to be perfect and dreaming huge dreams for the short future.  Dreams so huge that when the future speedily comes my way I flail and flounder and botch everything up.

In the past I’ve had lists of 25 activities that I want to do with the kids and thought I would make an advent garland of sorts where we could open each envelope and do that amazing thing.  Something like this:

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Only I never made (or bought) the garland…..and we never did a thing from my list.

Oh, we stayed busy all right.  Just trying to manage all the rehearsals and activities that we get to be part of since we have an amazing school and a big church family.  But all my dreams had dust on them.

I was trying to orchestrate the perfect Christmas and life was getting in my way.

It’s been going on for years and my children are growing older. I’m missing opportunities.

I contemplated not even decorating this year.  That’s how bad my attitude got.  I even had some of the kids convinced not to bother with the tree.  But what they really wanted was to make me happy.  To take some of the stress away, and if that meant no tree or manger scene–so be it.

And then I realized:

My opportunity to give them the perfect Christmas, is giving them a happy, peaceful Mother.

If I made an advent calendar with an envelope for each day, I could put in every one of them–

Today your mother will be happy.  And sing songs, and not feel stressed.

And if we only managed that one thing. It would be the perfect Christmas.

So, Friday, I gave a thankful prayer for my awesome children and husband.  And for the one room in our house that could appear untouched by the remodel.  Then we carried out all the tools and boxes of flooring, dusted and swept, and rearranged the furniture.  Then played some Christmas Carols, whirred up some simple eggnog in the blender (recipe coming Wednesday) and Decked the Halls.

Our home will never appear on the Blogland Tour of Homes.  I’m ok with that this year.  To let the kids take part in the placing of the decorations, even if it isn’t magazine worthy.

I found myself loosing my cool, once or twice.  When the kids would move a piece of furniture in the place I didn’t have in mind.  Or when I found a toy had crept it’s way back into the clean space.  It’s a process, but I’m more aware now.  I’m checking myself.  Reminding myself to speak gently, to train through these times, and not bulldoze through.  To not let something so small steal our joy.

This doesn’t mean that I can’t look at ideas on Pinterest or amazing blogs and think about adding one (but not 25) to my plans this season. But it does mean that I will ask myself why I’m doing something that makes me crazy and whether it will really bless my children’s memories when they are grown.

This Christmas is the Year of the Happy Mother

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Turning a Corner

I think I’ve had a midlife crisis of sorts.  And then I think, wait—You’re not that old.  And then I realize that if I double my life I’d be 74…..I’m that old?!  But it’s not really about me.  It’s about Heidi, who will be turning 14 in a few weeks.  14!

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Have you seen her?  She’s adult sized. And Beautiful.  (And hates it when I write about her on my blog.) In 4 years she’ll be ready for college.  Sniff.  Do you remember what you were doing 4 years ago?  It feels like yesterday to me.

I want to arrest time and take it prisoner.  But it evades me like a cat burglar in the night.

These precious moments with all my children in my home, are fleeting.  More precious than gold and will become as rare one day soon.  And so I’ve lain awake pondering what they will remember as adults.  (What they will tell their therapists.)  What will they remember about their mother.  What habits they will take from me into their adult homes.

Reading a friend’s blog recently, my heart was convicted that I needed to change.

So I’m awake this morning, 2 hours earlier than my body tells me is decent and good.  Hoping that a habit will form and I can push the clock a little further.  So that these wee quiet hours will become work to me, and the day will become family.  So my children will remember a mother who reads stories, and keeps a clean enough house, and tries some of what she pins on pinterest.  Especially the things that involve them.

It’s day 2, so I can’t claim victory over slothfulness.  Or tell you how my body will respond, or promise it’s a permanent change.  This morning, I rebelled at the sound of the alarm and tried to go back to sleep.  But all I could think about was my grown beautiful girl and the stair steps coming behind her.  And how they need me more than ever right now–and I need them.  And I got up and stumbled to the kitchen, made a giant cup of Hot Chocolate and found peace in the morning.  There’s something about the morning that I had forgotten:  God is there.

 

I’ve been keeping a secret

We filmed a segment of the reality TV show Extreme Cheapskates….two years ago.  We were sworn to secrecy about the filming because it was the pilot episode and hadn’t been approved to air.  We thought the producer would let us know when it was going to air, if ever, so we could send out a publicity note on our blog.  They didn’t.

We found out about the airing the day after, when a friend called to let us know they’d seen it.  Some of our friends said we looked ridiculous and they were sorry we had been portrayed like that.  I was scared to watch it and without cable, there really wasn’t an opportunity.

Until now.  Extreme Cheapskates hit Netflix last week and I finally worked up the nerve to watch our segment last night.  It wasn’t as bad as I was prepared for.  We are in the pilot episode, family #2.  We start around 16 minutes into the show.

Fun Facts:

1.  Amount of money we earned doing the show:  $0

2.  Amount of money we spent while doing the show:  $20

The show was filmed over Dub’s birthday and they asked me to plan a frugal birthday party.  We invited guests, made a homemade piñata, and had a bunch of games planned.  They film crew showed up and let us know the producer canceled the party.  What?  They decided to film a babysitting night with a couple we had met a few times.   I called all the guests and uninvited them–Awkward….and Dub had the worst birthday of his life.  I have been forever trying to make it up to him.  The camera crew all pitched in a bought him a cake at the end of the filming. Which was super nice of them.

Also, they asked me to buy a flannel shirt to cut up for wipes.  They wanted plaid, but the thrift stores were proud of them that time of year (October) and I couldn’t stomach the price.  I usually use knit anyway, from holey t-shirts at home and wouldn’t buy fabric to use as wipes.  I ended up with $1 red flannel pajama pants with reindeer on them.  The producer was disappointed but dealt with it.

3.  Amount of publicity for our frugal living business and books from doing the show: 0

4.  Number of extra media interviews we have done as a result of the show:  2

One included a radio interview done live over the phone to Sydney Australia!  I about died laughing when they introduced me as a reality TV star.  What?

5.  Amount of hours we filmed for the 8 minute segment:  24.  The camera crew followed us everywhere for 12+ hours a day–even to the bathroom…..I made them wait outside the door.

6.  The first thing we noticed when we saw ourselves:  How young we looked! It’s only been two years, but the stress of remodeling this home plus other normal stresses of life have taken their toll, adding gray hair and fine lines.  Makes me want to be more careful about my skin care routine, food choices, and using my faith to handle stress so I can get back to that place.  I had been a Fit Yummy Mummy for only 5 months at that time and was in the best health of my life.

7.  Some things that weren’t quite what they seemed:  We don’t refuse to buy toilet paper, we just buy less than the average family.  I keep it on hand for when we are behind on laundry or have guests over.

The wash cloth Brandon was folding that they pictured over and over, that looked dirty, was actually scorched.   I give makeup lessons and facials in my home with my Mary Kay business and warm the wet washcloths in the microwave.  I asked Heidi to give me a hand (when she was 9) and she put a stack of dry cloths in there for 3 minutes.  They were smoking and had brown marks on them and she cried.  I hugged her and told her they weren’t completely ruined, just not useful for facials any more.  And next time, try wetting them down first :).

Do we forage for wild edibles?  Yes, sometimes.  But not in the city and not in October.  The vegetation is bitter by that time.  Our favorite wild edibles are lamb’s quarter–tastes like spinach (best found in large quantities on Darren’s parents farm) and dandelion blossoms (Fried into fritters).  Though we have eaten violets; clover blossoms; Jerusalem artichokes; wild raspberries; gooseberries; elderberries; and wild asparagus. The best time to forage is in April around Easter time.

Do I buy out of date food at Dirty Don’s?  Not really.  The cheese was not out of date.  It had a packaged on date 3 months ahead of when I purchased it and had been frozen the whole time. The sauce….not sure what happened there.  The film crew was pushing me to buy all the ingredients for the dinner at that store.  Which was not easy to do and not in character for me.  I rarely buy anything to prepare the same day, but look for low cost foods to fill my pantry with and then cook based on what I have on hand. I already had everything I needed to make the pizza etc at home….but Nooooo. 😉

8.  Frugal activities that were filmed but didn’t make the final cut:  Homemade play dough; homemade finger paints; family hair cuts at home; cloth paper towels; cloth diapers; cash envelope system; our home pantry; sewing clothing from refashioned items; homemade bread; online shopping for deals; wood heat supplement; brown paper floors; canvas drop cloth floors; homemade knock-off lamp; homemade Roman shades from mini-blinds; furniture found by the side of the road and made over; cheap curtain rods extended to huge rods with a dowel rod painted to match….I’m sure there were others.

9.  My favorite moment of the show:  When Dub stepped in dog poop.  We all had a good laugh about that one.

10.  What I thought of the other families in my episode:  The first man made me step back and wonder how people viewed me.  I found his dumpster diving (illegal in my city) and taking food off other people’s plates to be distasteful.  (Oh you’re laughing, because I think cloth toilet paper is in good taste?)  And would I peel toilet paper into 2 rolls, or wash paper towels?  No way, why do that when I can wash cloth stuff, which washes up so much easier (by machine) and lasts relatively forever. The man after me had a great idea: A week long spending fast every month.  But would I spend $7 on goat heads?  Why, when $7 would have bought a nice pair of t-bones or a beef roast?  And would I ride my bike 40 miles to collect $7 in pocket change from all over the city?  Looks like fun, but I’d need a bike that seats 7 :).  And if it’s a spending fast, why spend anything at all? With a proper pantry a family can go moths without spending anything if necessary. And then the final family–the bartering family.  They are adorable.  What a nice looking couple–and their friend.  Wow!  What a voice!  I barter sometimes, but only when the trade is mutually beneficial.  For example right now I teach voice lessons to a girl while her mother tutors my daughter in reading and math.  We trade time for time and both save money.  But would I ask for a doughnut in exchange for a poetry recitation?  Not sure how that’s different from being a bum on a street corner playing a song for change in a cup. Except for maybe a bit more bold.

Anyhoo, I’m sure all those families are super nice.  And to be sure the producer was doing his best to find the grotesque and strange and play it up.  And also to find just the right mix of opportunities in a 2 day window. Sounds like the one man didn’t buy goat heads often and it did make good TV…sort of, lol.

 

Which one do you like better?

This polka dot afghan was supposed to be part of Heather’s room reveal.  That was crazy.  As if I had time to sit and crochet with all the other projects.  But I’ve taken it with me for car rides and appointments and meetings, and now it’s time to make a decision on how to sew the squares together.

Do you like Rainbow?

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Or Random?

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There’s one square left to stitch up.  In rainbow mode it would be light blue.  In ‘random’ dark blue.

This was my inspiration photo: I didn’t have all the colors, so went more simply. I used only the small dot squares in solid colors.

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From Made by Do. Click picture to go to the tutorial for this afghan.

I had originally thought to make mine random too.  But the rainbow has a nice orderly feeling to it.

I’ve been in bed for 2 1/2 days with a kidney infection (follow up appointment on Tuesday).  So if you follow me on Pinterest, I apologize for filling up your main page with Christmas ideas and crochet tutorials.  I decided while I lay (lie–hmmm, That’s why I teach choir) here I decided to get a jump start on Christmas planning.

I lost all humility and told my husband I AM A GENIUS.  You know why?  Last year on December 26th I took a few moments to take notes on our last Christmas, including what gifts went over well and are a definite re-do; what I’d like to do differently with decorations;  and updates for my Christmas card list. So when I went to brainstorm for Christmas 2013, half the work was done for me and the ideas were really good.

Like:  Make a bound photo book  for Great-Grandma.  Her mind isn’t clear and it’s hard for her to remember everyone’s names, so it will be easy to make that part of the book. And maybe if I start now on Teacher gifts, I’ll get them done on time….maybe.

 

 

A Woman’s Guide to FrontSight Take 2

We just got back from our second trip out to Frontsight, Nevada for 4 day defensive handgun training.  If you’re not a gun person, I totally understand.  I was pretty opposed to guns before my first trip, but took my first course at the insistence of my Dad and my husband. I was shocked that I  enjoyed learning to shoot and even more that I wanted to go back! Imagine a world where most citizens were trained with firearms and conceal carried.  What a huge deterrent to criminals that would be!

 

What it is:  4 days of intensive training that is as friendly as possible while still being safe.  It is not a boot camp.  Almost anyone can come, even children aged 11-15 can go with a parent. It’s okay if you’ve never fired a weapon before Frontsight.  It’s better to not have any habits, than to have bad habits to overcome.  But if you have shot before they will show you how to take your existing skills and get even better. The classes are more than just how to shoot, but also when to shoot, how to stay within the law and what the likely consequences are even if your shots were completely justified.  There is a background check required for all students.  And because everyone is armed, it is one of the safest places on earth. No one would dream of committing a crime there unless they were suicidal.

One of my favorite students was Lori.  She is 77 years young and not even 5 feet tall!  She carries 4 magazines on her left side and with 15 rounds each.  This was her second year at Frontsight.  4 years ago she decided to take martial arts classes and achieved her black belt in the second degree at age 75.  She was throwing large men on the mat and doing it well.  But threw out her back in the process.  She decided to take up shooting instead. I asked her what her son and grandchildren thought about grandma shooting.  She said they didn’t know about it!  She also said she really didn’t need either martial arts or guns, because she had Jesus.  I just adore her.  Isn’t she the cutest thing?

On the line next to us, a twelve year old boy was taking classes with his dad.  The boy was likely the best shot on the property that day (at least among the students.)  It was impressive to watch him!  The instructor told his dad if they were ever in need of tactically clearing a house to send the boy in first.  He was that good.  But I think that would be a hard decision for any parent to make.

The climate is unique in Nevada.  Hot and Dry during the day, cold at night.  Dehydration is a real risk as is sunburn, heat exhaustion, or heat stroke.  We found it is cooler to wear long lightweight layers than to have skin exposed to the sun.  Here’s the outfit I recommend:

 

A Woman’s Guide to What to wear at Frontsight Nevada

511 tactical gear pants in light khaki (the pockets in these are invaluable) (Try LApolicegear.com for the best price–around $29.00) Be sure to get the new fit or you will end up with mom pants–yuck. Also tuck the pocket flaps into the pockets on the left side of your pants while you are on the range.  The rough velcro is rough enough to cut your hands as you reach in and out multiple times.  Tucking in the pockets will protect you.  Mine are way too long.  They come in regular and long lengths.  Regular is about 30 inches.  Long are about 34 inches.  I’ll hem mine later but for the class I just flipped up the cuffs.  (Then I took home pieces of ammo casing and gravel every night.  If you are flying right away at the end of the class be sure to check your cuffs :).

tank top

white Long sleeved button front cotton shirt to wear over the tank and use for concealment on days 3 and 4

low cut socks and breathable mesh tennis shoes (you’ll want to wash the shoes in the washer once you are back home)

Hat with brim (not optional); and wrap around protective eyewear with a dark tint (also not optional)

A wide belt with a slide fastener instead of buckle and holes.  This will help a lot when it’s time to use the restroom.  (see below :).)

A loose weave neck scarf is nice too.  I’ve never had one, but my husband and dad love theirs.  They are popular on the grounds.

Wear sunscreen under the long sleeved shirt.  You will need to take it off at times, especially the first two days when conceal carry clothing isn’t used yet.

Also, be careful your tank isn’t cut too low.  I caught a hot casing down the front of my shirt on the last day and it really had me dancing. Those things can burn you, so it’s best to protect for that.

My Ammo Box. Looks too messy to me, but I move so fast normally that I don’t take time to stay organized. My SIL snapped this picture because my sparkly lip gloss tickled her funny bone. I was the queen of sparkly lip gloss on the range. Just in case, I felt like I was losing my girly edge during a fast draw. And we were in the desert–can’t have too much sparkly lip gloss in the desert.

What to Pack in Your Ammo Can

An ammo can is a plastic box with lid and latches for holding ammo, some people use a range duffle or tackle box instead.  You will need 600 rounds of ammo for a 4 day course, but only keep 200 rounds at a time in your can.  This will keep the can from getting too heavy and save room for the other essentials:

1.  A fingernail file.  Bring something heavy duty–your nails will break.  In preparation for the class, trim them just slightly longer than your fingertips and file them with flat ends.  Then reinforce your nails with 3 coats of clear polish or hardening top coat.  Still bring the file.  Guns are hard on fingernails.

2. Pocket tissues:  the range is dusty

3.  Beef jerky, nuts, and fruit or other snacks (that won’t melt.) Lunch is late 12:30 and if you have a time zone issue (we were delayed 2 hours) it can be really hard to make it to lunch or dinner.

4. Lip balm and lip gloss.  If you have one with sunscreen in it, all the better.  My lips got burned this time, ouch!

5. Sunscreen.  The higher the SPF the better.  And reapply often.

6.  Electronic hearing protection–this is required.  Just ear foamies won’t do.

7.  Ponytail holders (if your hair is long enough)  I like to wear a ponytail and pull it through the back of my hat.

8. Waterproof bandaids.  Frontsight has first aid kits there with a plethora of bandaids but I had a hard time getting any of them to stick after I started sweating.  I wished I had brought the sport ones that stick through anything.

9.  Frozen gatorade.  I don’t generally drink gatorade but make an exception in this case.  It can be hard to see the signs of dehydration or heat exhaustion in yourself, but others will see it–especially if you start doing stupid stuff or missing easy targets. It’s dangerous, so stay hydrated. They have deli trucks that come around with gatorade for $2 a bottle, but you can get it for 1/4th the cost if you plan ahead and bring your own.  Pop it in the freezer the night before.  Then as it thaws you can give it a good shake and it’s like a slushie.  Yum!

10.  Your photo ID.  You will need this to check in on the first day, and if any of your equipment breaks you will need to leave it as a deposit when you rent equipment to replace it from Frontsight.

11.  Caribiners.  The best price on these are from Wal-mart.  A huge one for $3 is handy to hang your electronic ear muffs from when you are doing dry practice.  And the small ones are good for clipping things like your loader to your belt loop.  I wish I had taped a small one to each of the front courners of my conceal carry shirt too.  The wind was making it hard to clear and draw for the exam and I know I lost points from wind delays that the weight of the beaners would have fixed.

 

Travel and Where to Stay

If you live close enough to Pahrump, NV to drive, I’m jealous.  If you need to fly, watch airline prices carefully. They will dip between $100 and $140 one way; book your flight on the low end.  We found the best prices on Southwest. Sunday is the most expensive day to fly and Wednesday is generally the cheapest.  We like to fly out Wednesday night for our classes that start Friday morning.  This gives us a day to rest, grocery shop, and get used to the time change before the crazy schedule begins.

Plan extra time when flying with guns.  You can check them in your bags but will have to fill out a declaration card at the counter.  Also you’ll need to pack ammo in a separate container from your gun (still inside the same suitcase though) and it must be in original packaging, not floating around loose.  You will be limited to 11 lbs of ammo.  Our friend’s ammo was weighed at the counter, ours was not–so you never know when they are going to check.  Your gun case will need to be securely locked for flying and a TSA lock for the outside of your suitcase is a good idea too.  Once everything is cleared at the counter you will be asked to wait 10-15 minutes for your bag to clear the 2nd level of security before finding your gate.

When flying home, book your flight for the day after your class ends.  You will be too exhausted to travel and if your flight is too early, you will miss the closing class activities (and the test.)  You definitely don’t want to miss those things. When you do fly home, check your pockets carefully for stray ammo.  During the class you’ll be shoving loose rounds into every available pocket so you can load on the line. TSA doesn’t find it funny if you forget and leave a round in your pocket.

Also, TSA doesn’t allow coconut oil, peanut butter, mayo or other spreadable items in your carry on bag.  I lost a big jar of coconut oil that way.  I thought it was just liquids that were restricted, but it’s not.  You can find the most recent TSA rules on their website: http://www.tsa.gov/traveler-information/prohibited-items 

If you are going alone or with just one other person, the cheapest hotel is SaddleWest in Pahrump.  It doesn’t have a great reputation, but we liked it okay.  Our room smelled of smoke, which I didn’t like, but we weren’t there much.  Most rooms do not have a fridge, so plan to buy a styrofoam cooler when you arrive to fill with ice and lunch fixing stuff.  Boxed lunches from the hotel are $10 each! but are $12 at Frontsight!  You’ll definitely be ahead to pack your own lunch.

If you are going with a group of 6, the cheapest option is to rent a vacation home.  We did that this time and loved it.  Plus the full kitchen made it super easy to make simple breakfasts and pack lunches.  I don’t recommend trying to cook supper even if you have a full kitchen.  You will be exhausted and most often won’t leave Frontsight until 6pm–with a half hour drive back to civilization and then starting meal prep–you’ll be hungry and frustrated before dinner is ready.  If you are set on saving money by cooking, it is easier to cook the 3rd and 4th nights.  We used a slow cooker for one night and grilled burgers the next.  It worked out ok. Vacationrentals.com is a good place to look for accommodations.

There is a Walmart in Pahrump with a full grocery store and an Albertsons too.  I took a few specialty items from home, like Trim Healthy Mama chocolate waffle mix, chia seeds, ground flax, and glucomannan powder.  But we bought most things when we arrived.

How to Use Facilities When Armed

Guns are expensive, and the last thing you want to do is drop one in a toilet.  While most have safeties that prevent them from firing when dropped (and you won’t be allowed to be loaded in the John) it’s still a bad idea to drop your gun.  If you have a belt holster and loosen the belt and drop your pants, the weight of the gun will pull your belt out and drop everything on the floor. (Ask me how I know!)  To prevent this, use a slide buckle and loosen the belt almost to the end to give you plenty of room to move your pants up and down. Then lock the slide so the belt can’t come off.

Also, when using the porta-potties at the back ranges, don’t lift the lid to the toilet until your pants are down past where your gun could fall in, and close it immediately before lifting your pants back up again.  This is TMI only if you don’t need the info!

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I’m not sure how to transition from that last topic, lol.  So I’m just going to move on :).  My goal is to pass the Defensive Handgun Course with 90% or better.  And even after 2 times through, I couldn’t even graduate.  It’s the speed pressure that gets me every time.  The key to graduating is dry practicing at home.  The hardest part for me is just getting out of the holster in time to take my shots. I’m going to take a year to practice and save my pennies so next time I can take my 2 oldest kids with me.  Once I graduate at 90% I can take the advanced course and then the tactical course.  I really want to do that!

So do any of you shoot?  I’m always pleasantly surprised to find out how many women do and don’t talk about it much.

Dangers of Blogging

Blogs:  Friend or Foe?  Blogging is popular these days.  For most, it’s a fun type of virtual scrapbook.  A way to record how the children are growing and family activities.  For a few it turns into a full time business!

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I love to read blogs and find it brings out the best and worst in myself.  On the positive end it motivates me to try new things and opens up possibilities I never thought of. On the negative end, blog reading turns me into a self-critical; consumer driven; time wasting; ungrateful mess.

I see all their beautiful decorating, their amazing thrift store finds, and children activities and look around and feel pretty dissatisfied with my life.  It’s almost as bad as the HGTV syndrome–where a crew completes an entire makeover in 24 hours and I think my husband and I should be able to do the same. Only to get it half torn up in the same amount of time to emerge dusty and tired, irritated with each other, and not sure what to do next.

As a blogger the same good and evil is present.  I love looking back over the pictures of my children and trying new things.  But lately I’ve spent too much time comparing my blog to others–the amazing ones I like to read–like The Nester or Centsational Girl.  And to be honest the comparison has put me into a funk.  These ladies are amazing!  And my blog just isn’t in their league right now. (I know because I get about 100 spam comments per post and 3 or 4 real ones, lol.)

When I look at my blogroll list, there’s not a frugal living one on the list, unless it has to do with decorating.  Part of the reason why, is I’m afraid of the competition.  I just don’t have the self-confidence to face pure competition and smile.  I’ve also noticed that my frugal blogging peers are often funnels for posting good deals.  Sometimes it’s better not to know about something that’s on sale, so I won’t be tempted to buy something I don’t need–no matter how good a good deal it is.

To try to boost my blog into the same level as the ones I admire, I’ve been studying photography skills; new plugins; blog layouts; ways to go viral on pinterest etc.  And it’s taking a lot of time.  I bought a blog planner and spent  January planning out my year of posts.  I stopped enjoying blogging.   I avoided it because I hated it, only to feel guilty about avoiding it in return.  I wish I had a dollar for every time I thought about quitting altogether and just enjoy being a mother.  Then I’d have enough money to retire, lol.

But I know myself.  As much as I love being a mother and a good clean on my house, I love the social aspects of blogging and the self expression.  Our family has grown used to the income from selling ebooks and the menu plan.  Then, there’s the emails I get from women who say the books and menus have really helped them.  I get one of those notes and feel a renewed interest in the business part of things.   If I could just put my blinders on and not concern myself with page views; what my reader’s think or comparing myself to other bloggers and just enjoy.  Then I’d have the perfect blend.

What I’m trying to say, is I have a new determination to live in the REAL.  To spend time enjoying my family; to appreciate the talents of others without criticizing myself; to blog less often and when I do, to stay true to myself.  To show more appreciation to my advertisers without worrying that I might annoy my readers.  And to be okay with my amateur picture taking skills and even cell phone photos if that means more family time. I vow to conquer my fear of taking new steps in business.  To not let the voice of the rare mean person overshadow the encouraging words of the  majority.

You might not notice a difference in my blog at all, but I will.  🙂

 

The Scripture Lady

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After services each week, The scripture lady is always surrounded by children, eager to learn a new verse by memory.

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If she has more children than she can work with, she has older children teach the younger ones.

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She creates pictures like these to help the children get a mind picture for the words.

And then rewards them with tiny candy treats.  I love it! Her incentives make the children feel fantastic about being in the Word.